There’s nothing quite like a best friend. The little secrets, the private jokes, the silly things that make us laugh until we cry that absolutely no one else gets. We tell our best friends our innermost secrets, no matter how dark they may be and you know its ok. they will still adore you because that’s what being a best friend is all about. Or is it?
Someone recently confided in me about a problem they were having with their best friend. A friend she had known almost her entire life. So it dawned on me that when you have an issue with a best friend, it really is one of the hardest things to deal with, as a fall out, is probably the last thing that either party would want.
The problem starts when you start to spend almost every spare waking minute with one another. The friendship becomes all-consuming and eventually it can be suffocating. Too much time in one persons company, even a person you adore, can make the little things they do that you wouldn’t normally even notice, start to grate on every part of you.
When the occasional let downs become more frequent and the moods creep in every time you go out together, what do you do? When your relationship with your best friend is like an un-contracted marriage and it starts to fall apart, how do we deal with it? Can it be fixed? Do you even want to fix it? The big question is… should we be able to divorce our best friends? Or do we simply take some time out, distance ourselves a little and hope that things fall back into place???
Even writing this makes me feel like a traitor as I, like most of us, have a best friend that is a huge part of my life. So I guess the answer is to hang on in there, ride out the storm and be there to catch her when she falls. Like a marriage, a best friend takes the bad times, as well as the good 😉 xx
Best friends also require nurturing, like 99% of the marriages out there. As long as both are still putting in, then there is always a reserve to draw on at the stress points.
I they’re best friends, then they would understand when a bit of reproof comes their way. My ultimate best friends have told me how they feel about me and I’ve told them how I’ve felt about them. It’s really, really tough to do, but the friendship eventually recovers and becomes stronger. My bests friends and I have been together for the past 25 years, so I guess I’m doing something right! 🙂